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Oral Sex As Appropriate Sexual Expression in Marriage

What’s your opinion of oral sex? Is this a permissible form of sexual intimacy and expression between a husband and wife?

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Preparing for Marriage in a College Environment

How do I, as a student, prepare myself to be a godly wife and mother? I’m a single woman in my mid-twenties, pursuing a graduate degree in literature at a secular university. While I enjoy my studies and view them as important in preparing me for a future career in teaching, there’s another sense in …

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Restoring Romance to Marriage

How can my husband and I rekindle the romantic flame that brought us together in the first place? We’re stuck in a rut. The spark has gone out of our relationship. We don’t even seem to have much fun together anymore. How do I raise this subject without seeming to nag?

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Social Media Red Flags for Married Couples

Can you offer any guidelines as to how much social media communication is appropriate for married persons when it involves individuals of the opposite sex? Are there any signs that might indicate when an online relationship is in danger of crossing the line of impropriety?

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STD Testing for Unfaithful Spouse

Should a spouse who has had an affair be tested for sexually transmitted diseases and infections? My husband recently ended an affair, and we are working toward reconciliation. It’s a touchy process and I don’t want to do anything that might suggest a lack of trust or indicate that I haven’t forgiven him. At the …

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Trouble Communicating in Marriage

How can my spouse and I learn to understand each other and make ourselves understood? Whenever I try to talk to him on a deeper, more meaningful level, nothing I say seems to connect. Sometimes my words even backfire on me. Am I doing something wrong?

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Wife Feels She’s Grown Apart From Her Husband

Should I stay with my husband even though I don’t love him anymore?

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Young Man Attracted to His Girlfriend’s Sister

What should I do if I find myself increasingly drawn to my girlfriend’s sister? I’ve been dating a very good, kind, and godly young lady for about three months now, and in the process I’ve spent a lot of time getting to know her entire family. I didn’t anticipate that I would end up feeling …

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Adult Child Struggling With Parent’s Affair and New Partner

My parents recently divorced because my mom was having an affair. Since then, she’s moved in with this other man and plans to marry him within a few weeks.

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Child Repeats Negative Comments Made by Ex-Spouse

How should I respond when my child tells me that my ex-spouse has been making some very critical and unkind statements about me? What’s the wisest way to handle this situation?

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Confronting the Infidelity of a Deployed Spouse

What should I do about an adulterous affair that my spouse had immediately prior to being deployed overseas by the military? He left recently for an extended tour of duty. Just before his departure I found out that he’s been involved with another woman. It’s difficult to communicate with him now that he’s overseas. How …

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Doesn’t Like to Talk With Spouse and Kids

Is it wrong of me – especially in a family setting – to keep silent when others want me to converse? I’m an introverted person, and there are times when I just don’t feel like talking. My spouse understands, but my kids get upset. Can’t I just be quiet if I want to?

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Finding Forgiveness in Marriage

How can I get my spouse to forgive me for the ways I’ve hurt her over the past couple of years? She’s withdrawn from me emotionally, and I’m not sure how to convince her I’ve changed. Where do I begin to address this problem?

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Helping an Unemployed Spouse

What can I do to support my husband now that he’s lost his job? He’s been unemployed for three months, and though he’s searched long and hard he still can’t find a new position. Meanwhile, he’s becoming bored and depressed, and I can tell that he’s beginning to feel worthless. How do I come alongside …

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Husband Recovering From Porn Addiction, No Desire for Sex

Is it normal for a man who has been deeply involved with sexually explicit material to have no desire for marital intimacy?

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Keeping Marital Conflict Healthy

Can you help me and my spouse learn how to control our arguments so that they don’t become overheated? Usually we are pretty good at having constructive disagreements, but sometimes things have gotten out of hand. What can we do to keep a lid on things?

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Messaging Opposite-Sex Friends on Social Media

As a married person, is it okay to chat online or send private messages to Facebook members of the opposite sex?

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Overcoming the Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse on Marriage

How can I prevent memories of childhood sexual trauma from having a negative impact on my relationship with my spouse? I was abused a long time ago and though it wasn’t easy, I’ve forgiven the people who violated me. But after twelve years of marriage I still can’t enjoy sex with my husband without feeling …

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Preparing for Spouse’s Release From Prison

Do you have any advice for a woman whose husband is on the verge of getting out of jail? My spouse has been serving a three-year sentence and is scheduled to come home next month. I’m eager to have him back and resume a normal relationship, but at the same time I can’t help feeling …

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Restoring Trust in Marriage

How can we restore trust to our relationship?